I know in these times that might seem rather stupid but some minds are too strong to change. The three of them decided that my wife should get pregnant from my father and they talked me into it; saying that this is something that happens in many families. They said that in time I will be okay with it and that its important to have the family blood being pure. She just gave birth to a boy last month. But I hate it. And I hate myself even more because I wasn't man enough to not only produce my own but also that I wasn't able to stop my wife sleeping with another man. I feel like running away from my house and family, somewhere far where I can start afresh with a new name and a new life. Would it be right for me to abandon my wife and parents?I don't care at all about that child.
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Dear Friend,
You really cannot expect me to believe you had no say in the matter. You could have chosen to walk out on your family the moment the suggestion was brought up. I am surprised your wife went through with this without so much as respecting your wishes. I understand she might well want to be a mother someday, but isn't it unfair for you to go through with something you aren't comfortable with in the first place? Of course, you should have just been more persistent in opposing their decisions. It seems likely that you are never going to live this down and that this will eat at you constantly. You may berate yourself for doing nothing, but you also have to remember that there were other options available.
Ohhh no, pls don't hate the child. It's not his fault. It is innocent.It is still a baby, it doesn't know anything. The people you should be mad at are your parents who pushed you to this. I think your wife like a "good" bahu had to submit to her in laws wishes maybe because she feared them coz' they do sound like dominating people. . Try to talk to someone about it. a psychologist, counsellor etc. But pls , don't blame your child.
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